Host a Retreat Yourself





Sometimes you want to host a retreat or other event to get the women of the parish together. Retreat may signify for some a quiet, reflective time, for others it might bring up the picture of a 'staff retreat' at work which often involves more work than relaxation. It can be much more than that, as events by the Women's Ministry of the Diocese prove.

Here are some ideas, from Cindy, that might give you a starting point for a fun event-with a purpose! You'll find a list of locations for off-site events at the bottom of the page
Below the ideas are some speakers in the diocese. (and check out the Talented Women of the Diocese page on this website, too!) Your own parish priest, deacon, or member of your congregation are also valuable assets when considering who to lead a retreat. Contact Cindy if you have questions about the ideas listed below, or would like her help in implementing them. (She also has a variety of retreat topics that can be adapted to large or small groups, some based on her books.)

Girl's Night Out: This can take many forms, and doesn't even need a speaker. It can be as simple as having a worship service in the church garden or at a park, or in someone's home. You can add time for food and conversation either before or after the worship so everyone can get to know each other better. Keep the food simple so you aren't stuck in the kitchen. Potlucks are always a hit.

Paint the Town: Recently paint nights have become quite popular. Most towns have companies or individuals that lead these. While the fellowship and fun itself is a worship-ful experience, you can add a brief time of Compline, music, or other short worship at the beginning or end to set the tone. This is a great theme for inviting non-churchgoing ladies to attend and get to know some members.

Artsy Craftsy: Similar to the painting event, this theme can explore other forms of crafts or art projects, which are always so much fun when done as a community. You can start with a theme like 'making angels' or 'potter and clay'. These use a Bible reading as the starting point and then explore the craft. You could get together to make cards for shut-ins, or learn flower arranging, too.

Tea Time: Many parishes have annual Teas to honor moms, or raise money, or just get together. A tea lends itself to conversation and elegance. It is helpful to have a 'hostess' for each table. Often the hostess is responsible for the decor of the table, and even provides her own tea set.  The menu can be prepared a day or more in advance by all the hostesses, and is a wonderful time of fellowship in itself.

Sweet and Savory: This theme can be done in many ways. Add a time of singing seasonal songs, or worship music and you have a lovely time of fellowship and worship. You can have some talented baker provide a selection of goodies to taste. You can have an afternoon spent trying out new, special recipes for candy, cookies, scones, or other treats.
Everyone can bring a couple dozen cookies or candies or savory treats for exchange. Then everyone goes home with a wonderful selection of new yummy goodies. Gather to make cookies to share with your food pantry or other outreach.

Learning about the Labyrinth: If you are fortunate enough to have a labyrinth at your church or at a nearby parish, this can be a very meaningful event and introduce a form of prayer that isn't familiar to everyone. It does work best with small groups, or in conjunction with another activity so  the labyrinth isn't crowded and everyone has time to mediate while walking the path.

Center Yourself: Contemplative prayer instruction is another discipline that lends itself to a learning retreat with time for instruction and participation.

Day of Prayer: This can take many forms. You can have a half day or a whole day event, with lunch. It could involve:
Times of worship interspersed with teaching
Instruction in various forms of prayer and time to experience them (such as the labyrinth and centering prayer above)
A focused theme to pray about (domestic violence, homelessness, justice...the list is endless) with speakers who can discuss the issue.

Window Wonder: Do you have beautiful stained glass windows in your church? Offer an event that provides a bit about the history and symbolism of the windows. Build in a time for quiet reflection amid the beautiful windows.

Saint John's Bible: For those in the Diocese of the Rio Grande, there is the fabulous opportunity to learn about the Saint John's Bible (the first illuminated Bible since the Middle Ages). Groups can visit St. John's Cathedral to learn about the Bible or volumes can be brought to your parish for an event.

These are just a few basic ideas. Use your imagination, or check out Pinterest, too.

Be sure to advertise far enough in advance that ladies can make plans to come. (A month or 6 weeks really isn't too early.) Sometimes you can pull off a simple event with less lead time, but with everyone's busy schedules...it is better to give some lead time.
Send a postcard (and/or e-invite) to all the women, post something on your bulletin board, and in your parish Sunday announcements. If you want this to be an outreach to women in your city, try to get something in the local paper and/or online calendar.

Retreat Speakers

In no particular order, below are women, and men, who have led retreats in the Diocese and/or who have been suggested as good retreat leaders.
If you know of someone who would be an asset to this list, email me.

Cynthia (Cindy) Davis, (women of the Bible, spiritual scrapbooking, and many others)
Deborah Smith Douglas, Holy Faith, Santa Fe
The Rev. Pat Green, St. Mark's, ABQ (spiritual direction, liturgy)
The Rev. Jeanne Lutz, St. Andrew's, Las Cruces (retired DOK Chaplain, Lutheran and Episcopal worship)
Richard Rohr, Center for Action and Contemplation, ABQ
Others are on the Talented Women page of this blog.

Some Blogs for Spiritual Refreshment are:

Daily Office from the Mission of St. Claire
Daily devotional: d365
Episcopal Journal is a way to keep up with news and be inspired.
Forward Day by Day

Some Retreat Centers in NM include

Camp Stoney:  Santa Fe, NM:  
Canossian Spirituality Center:  Albuquerque, NM:  
Christ in the Desert:  just north of Abiqui, NM:  
Ghost Ranch:  Abiqui, NM:  
Glorieta Center:  Pecos, NM:  
Holy Cross Retreat Center:  Mesilla Park, NM:  
Immaculate Heart of Mary Retreat Center:  Santa Fe, NM 
Mandala Center:  near Raton, NM: 
Norbertine Center:  Albuquerque, NM:  
PecosMonastery:  Pecos, NM: